Common mistakes for you and your lover to avoid!
by Dr. Lidia
The following is a list of mistakes that I have accumulated over the 25+ years
that I have been a sex therapist. Take note so that you don't make them or if
you have made them you will now be aware and change your behavior. These are
not in any type of order and we add to the lists regularly, if you have a mistake
to add, email me.
MEN
not enough foreplay
only touching or being nice when you want sex
rolling over and falling asleep after sex
falling asleep on top of your partner after sex
doing the same old same old thing in bed
being set in your ways
not being open to new things
not listening
not knowing enough about her body
going straight to the clitoris
using your hands to roughly
thrusting too hard
not lasting long enough
lasting too long
not practicing adequate hygiene
demanding oral sex and not liking to give it yourself
insisting on anal sex when you know she does not want to
forcing yourself upon her
assuming she's having an orgasm
assuming everything is ok sexually
not having regular conversations about your sex life with your partner
not having a date night
you stopped dating
you stopped treating each other respectfully
gawking at other women in front of your mate
being unfaithful
talking bad about her in public or at anytime... frankly
in the heat of passion, calling out the wrong name
talking about how hot someone else is
not complementing her enough
forgetting to be intimate and not always have it lead to sex
not being able to communicate adequately
pretending to know everything about sex
assuming she likes what the other women you have been with liked
talking about ex lovers
talking about past sexual experiences
not talking enough about what you want or need in bed, in life, romantically
not kissing enough
not kissing enough during sex
WOMEN
not self pleasuring enough
not expressing you needs and desires
communicating adequately about your sex life
thinking he'll never cheat
blowing off sex
avoiding sex
using sex as a tool
being manipulative about the amount of sex
cheating
forgetting to foreplay him
forgetting to come on to him some time
forgetting to praise him for the good things
complaining too much but not offering a solution
hygiene
if you have a nasty odor coming from your vagina, mot going to the gyno to get
checkied out
talking to you guy in a not so serious way (laughing) about sex
talking about how another man's penis was bigger
talking about your sexual past, every sordid detail
talking about how many sexual partners you've had
bragging that you like certain sexual acts and then never doing them
not pleasing him orally when he does it to you
you use to have oral sex with him before you got married and now you've stopped
doing the same old same old
not bothering to educate yourself on how to be a better lover
not knowing enough about the male member or male sexual satisfaction in general
having a sexual issue, but not doing something about it
avoiding sex because you think you're fat
not liking the way your guy makes love to you and never telling him how you
like to made love too
faking orgasm
saying things are great sexually when they aren't
